The catch is actions speak louder than words (or unspoken words).
We need to live our vows daily.
That’s hard. And it can feel lonely and counter-culture to not vent about your spouse at work. The thing is, counter-culture is what we want. It’s unfortunate, but these days, divorce is culturally acceptable.
In my family, that word isn’t allowed — not in our house and definitely not in our marriage.
So how does a married working mom have it all?
Everything that we dreamed of — the job, the husband, the kids — and not resent one or all? I’ve read books on marriage, parenting, self-help, but they always address just that one area of my life. It was always my job to figure out how it fit into my relationships. And one size doesn’t fit all!
I’ve been married nine years. I’m a mom of three sweet children. I have a 6 year old son and 3 year old boy/girl twins. (There are some stories there!)
I teach parent education courses for birth to 5-year-old development.
I’ve been an elementary teacher for 11 years with my masters degree, and I see how a stable parent unit really benefits children.
I have also felt it.
My father died when I was 10 in a car accident and my mom remarried 2 years later. I watched my mom and stepdad try to build a marriage in front of 7 children. They modeled making time for the marriage, children, and career in very intentional ways.
My husband and I have benefited from life experiences that set us up for a solid foundation for our marriage. I realize not everyone has had those. We have also benefited from my desire to learn, communicate, and pray so that for those things we have not planned on don’t throw us into a tizzy.
Do you ever feel that for every effort you put forth there is a counter force pushing back? Sometimes I literally have a 3-year-old pushing back! Ha!
Join me at 3 with Bri as we digest resources with a lens that keeps in mind the many hats you wear, especially your marriage.